Trying to understand women...
What do women really want? What an age old question that is. What do they look for in a partner? Is it looks, kindness, humour, intelligence, a perfect body, sensitivity, drive, ambition, emotional support? Does a man have to possess all of those qualities to stand a chance?
So often I hear women talking about ‘bad boys’. Who are these boys? Are the ‘bad boys’ the most popular? If so, what happens to the ‘nice guys’? Is it really true that nice guys come last? If the ‘bad boys’ are what women look for, then how ‘bad’ does the ‘boy’ have to be? Maybe that’s my problem, am I too nice? Maybe I should be nastier towards women…Is that what it takes? Why do women keep going back to guys who treat them badly?
Why did Lois Lane fall for Superman and not Clark Kent? Weren’t both the same man? Wasn’t Clark kind, caring, smart and supportive? Ok, maybe he was a bit bumbling, he wasn’t perfect, but then who is? Well, Superman was perfect. So do only ‘super-men’ have a chance?
Is all a man needs great looks and a perfect body? Can he get by on just those things? Maybe, maybe not.
Ultimately, my history of relationships is no different from anybody else’s. I’ve been dumped, and I’ve been the one to dump. (Dumping someone is a very unpleasant feeling). However, I have had a number of women who seem so keen and honest about their feelings towards me, and then all of a sudden they end the relationship. One minute they are full of “I love you, I want to be with you forever…” And then the next minute, they end our relationship. I don’t understand that. How can you so abruptly end our relationship after saying “I love you”?? Does it mean that you didn’t really love me? I guess it does. Is the term “I love you” just a catch phrase with some women? Maybe that’s something I’ll never understand.
Have I ever been in love? I mean really really in love, the truly madly deeply kind. Yes, once. Do I believe in love? Yes, very much. I’m 34, and to be honest I thought by now I would have met that special someone. So why haven’t I?? Well, I thought I had, at least she said she loved me, but I guess she didn’t. Am I too much of a Clark Kent?
So often I hear women talking about ‘bad boys’. Who are these boys? Are the ‘bad boys’ the most popular? If so, what happens to the ‘nice guys’? Is it really true that nice guys come last? If the ‘bad boys’ are what women look for, then how ‘bad’ does the ‘boy’ have to be? Maybe that’s my problem, am I too nice? Maybe I should be nastier towards women…Is that what it takes? Why do women keep going back to guys who treat them badly?
Why did Lois Lane fall for Superman and not Clark Kent? Weren’t both the same man? Wasn’t Clark kind, caring, smart and supportive? Ok, maybe he was a bit bumbling, he wasn’t perfect, but then who is? Well, Superman was perfect. So do only ‘super-men’ have a chance?
Is all a man needs great looks and a perfect body? Can he get by on just those things? Maybe, maybe not.
Ultimately, my history of relationships is no different from anybody else’s. I’ve been dumped, and I’ve been the one to dump. (Dumping someone is a very unpleasant feeling). However, I have had a number of women who seem so keen and honest about their feelings towards me, and then all of a sudden they end the relationship. One minute they are full of “I love you, I want to be with you forever…” And then the next minute, they end our relationship. I don’t understand that. How can you so abruptly end our relationship after saying “I love you”?? Does it mean that you didn’t really love me? I guess it does. Is the term “I love you” just a catch phrase with some women? Maybe that’s something I’ll never understand.
Have I ever been in love? I mean really really in love, the truly madly deeply kind. Yes, once. Do I believe in love? Yes, very much. I’m 34, and to be honest I thought by now I would have met that special someone. So why haven’t I?? Well, I thought I had, at least she said she loved me, but I guess she didn’t. Am I too much of a Clark Kent?
posted by Rob at 5:03 pm
1 Comments:
Hey Ronnie! Great to see you here. (Do you have a blog now?)
I think you are right that I haven't met the right person yet, that she is still out there somewhere. I do think about it a lot and perhaps I shouldn't, but it's hard not to. When one has a lot of love to give, it does tend to prey on the mind.
I do have a darker side which you know about, though it's tricky sometimes explaining it to others. It is a part of me though and will always be there (maybe some just get scared off). I'm not Clark Kent at all, just a guy who is still searching...
There is a plan underway now to change things...only time will tell how it turns out. Thanks for your feedback, was good to hear from you and get your thoughts on the matter. :)
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